a leo lady and lingering bonds
Stella is 38, a smart and stunning looking Leo (with clinging Cancer as her twelth house) and has a great job in advertising. She enjoys the single lifestyle of dating for fun and avoiding commitment and has developed a theory about women like herself that gains strength with just about every new single woman she meets that she calls 'the lingering bond syndrome'.
"I meets stacks of single women in the advertising game and I'm amazed by the number of them who have some man in their past -- sometimes a father or a brother, but more likely an ex boyfriend -- towards whom they feel a very strong attachment," explains Stella. "I believe this attachment is from a past life."
"For instance, I have an older brother with whom I am very close. He’s happily married with three children and because I’ve played such an important part in his marriage -- from being his wife’s matron of honor at the wedding to being a godmother and babysitter for all of his children -- I’ve never felt a need to get married."
"I believe that my attachment to my brother goes beyond this life," says Stella, "and it's just coincidental that he's my brother."
"This attachment to a male from a past life appears to dominate the lives of most single women and could very well prevent us from forming a permanent relationship with a man in this life."
"It's far more than a role model attachment, a romantic attachment, a sister attachment or a daughter attachment," adds Stella. "I truly believe that my brother and I had a past life together and all people who feel exceptionally close to other people in this life have had a past life with that person, too."
"Whether or not this is a pathological attachment or purely magical thinking is for someone else to decide," says Stella. "I just know that I have a spiritual bond with him that I’ve never felt for anyone, and he feels the same way, too."
"Remaining single is a perfectly natural lifestyle for some women," says Stella, "but it could be pathological for others. For want of a better description I’ve decided to call my theory the Lingering Bond Syndrome."
When Stella heard Maria’s story about three amazing coincidences in her life relating to an ex boyfriend, she was able to explain to Maria that when coincidences happen it is to remind us of someone we met in a past life. (See incredible darkness of coincidence for Maria's story).
"That Maria’s third coincidence led her to read Carl Jung, who -- like two other men in Maria’s life -- shared her ex boyfriend's date of birth," explains Stella, "was evidence enough for me that Maria and her ex boyfriend had an extraordinary past life together."
"I felt that Maria’s ex boyfriend, Terry, could have been Carl Jung in a past life," explains Stella, "and Maria in her past life could have been one of Jung's many lovers."
"The purpose of Terry and Maria meeting up in this life was to resolve an issue between Jung and one of his lady lovers."
"The lingering bond past life theory made sense to Maria," says Stella, "but she wanted to know what the issue was, why Jung and his lady love choose her and Terry in their return to this life and why she, not Terry, had the coincidences."
"I told her that the issue was something that the lady wanted to resolve, not Jung," explains Stella, "and that’s why Terry didn’t have the same coincidences that Maria had."
"I told Maria that she was chosen by the lady because she probably shared the same birth date," explains Stella, "and also because Maria was her soul-sister, as Terry was Jung’s soul brother."
"I had to press Maria for further details in relation to working out what the issue might have been that the lady wanted to resolve," says Stella.
"Apparently, Terry was the first person in Maria's life with whom she could happily share an interest in magical, mysterious things," says Stella.
"Previously, the people in Maria's life had been solid, conservative, serious types who would look askance at her when she brought up an esoteric subject."
"Because there was no scientific proof for anything New Age and, indeed, the existence of God, Maria would have been showing a lack of intelligence, in their opinion, to consider such possibilities."
"Maria did not want to argue and ruin her career, so she kept her thoughts to herself and privately looked at the people in her life at that time as being ‘flat earthers’ -- well meaning, but lacking in imagination."
"It looks like Terry allowed Maria to blossom creatively in much the same way that Carl Jung used imagination very creatively as a healing mechanism in his work," explains Stella. "Also, both Terry and Jung were womanizers who remained friendly with their ex lovers long after the affairs ended."
"I feel that Maria's breaking of a 10 year friendly tie between herself and Terry was the cause of the series of coincidences that ultimately led her to Carl Jung," says Stella, "and this fits in very nicely with my past life Lingering Bond Syndrome."
"The issue between Jung and one of his lovers," says Stella, "must have had something to do with that woman being unable to break away from him."
"In that most of Jung's lovers were either his students or patients or both," explains Stella, "I could imagine that woman -- possibly Maria in a past-life -- having great difficulty accepting her situation."
"Those were Victorian times and, having been seduced by Jung, her chances of marriage and children had been shot, and she probably remained under his spell forever, either as a patient or a student or both."
"She did not have the strength of character to tell the great man to get lost," explains Stella, "but Maria did. In doing so, Maria not only freed herself but also the spirit of Jung's lady lover."
"I believe that remaining attached to a male person -- especially an ex husband or boyfriend," explains Stella, "is very common with single women and could have a lot to do with their choice of single life as a permanent lifestyle."
"In Maria’s case it was definitely a pathological past life bond that she shared with Terry," explains Stella, "and that’s not only why she needed to break it but also why she had such extraordinary coincidences to help her."
"In my case," laughs Stella, "I think the past life bond I have with my brother is a very positive one."
"However, if a whole string of coincidences happen that lead me to suspect that he was an axe murderer or something in a past life, then I’ll let you know!"
Stella's story first appeared as lingering bonds and past lives
"I meets stacks of single women in the advertising game and I'm amazed by the number of them who have some man in their past -- sometimes a father or a brother, but more likely an ex boyfriend -- towards whom they feel a very strong attachment," explains Stella. "I believe this attachment is from a past life."
"For instance, I have an older brother with whom I am very close. He’s happily married with three children and because I’ve played such an important part in his marriage -- from being his wife’s matron of honor at the wedding to being a godmother and babysitter for all of his children -- I’ve never felt a need to get married."
"I believe that my attachment to my brother goes beyond this life," says Stella, "and it's just coincidental that he's my brother."
"This attachment to a male from a past life appears to dominate the lives of most single women and could very well prevent us from forming a permanent relationship with a man in this life."
"It's far more than a role model attachment, a romantic attachment, a sister attachment or a daughter attachment," adds Stella. "I truly believe that my brother and I had a past life together and all people who feel exceptionally close to other people in this life have had a past life with that person, too."
"Whether or not this is a pathological attachment or purely magical thinking is for someone else to decide," says Stella. "I just know that I have a spiritual bond with him that I’ve never felt for anyone, and he feels the same way, too."
"Remaining single is a perfectly natural lifestyle for some women," says Stella, "but it could be pathological for others. For want of a better description I’ve decided to call my theory the Lingering Bond Syndrome."
When Stella heard Maria’s story about three amazing coincidences in her life relating to an ex boyfriend, she was able to explain to Maria that when coincidences happen it is to remind us of someone we met in a past life. (See incredible darkness of coincidence for Maria's story).
"That Maria’s third coincidence led her to read Carl Jung, who -- like two other men in Maria’s life -- shared her ex boyfriend's date of birth," explains Stella, "was evidence enough for me that Maria and her ex boyfriend had an extraordinary past life together."
"I felt that Maria’s ex boyfriend, Terry, could have been Carl Jung in a past life," explains Stella, "and Maria in her past life could have been one of Jung's many lovers."
"The purpose of Terry and Maria meeting up in this life was to resolve an issue between Jung and one of his lady lovers."
"The lingering bond past life theory made sense to Maria," says Stella, "but she wanted to know what the issue was, why Jung and his lady love choose her and Terry in their return to this life and why she, not Terry, had the coincidences."
"I told her that the issue was something that the lady wanted to resolve, not Jung," explains Stella, "and that’s why Terry didn’t have the same coincidences that Maria had."
"I told Maria that she was chosen by the lady because she probably shared the same birth date," explains Stella, "and also because Maria was her soul-sister, as Terry was Jung’s soul brother."
"I had to press Maria for further details in relation to working out what the issue might have been that the lady wanted to resolve," says Stella.
"Apparently, Terry was the first person in Maria's life with whom she could happily share an interest in magical, mysterious things," says Stella.
"Previously, the people in Maria's life had been solid, conservative, serious types who would look askance at her when she brought up an esoteric subject."
"Because there was no scientific proof for anything New Age and, indeed, the existence of God, Maria would have been showing a lack of intelligence, in their opinion, to consider such possibilities."
"Maria did not want to argue and ruin her career, so she kept her thoughts to herself and privately looked at the people in her life at that time as being ‘flat earthers’ -- well meaning, but lacking in imagination."
"It looks like Terry allowed Maria to blossom creatively in much the same way that Carl Jung used imagination very creatively as a healing mechanism in his work," explains Stella. "Also, both Terry and Jung were womanizers who remained friendly with their ex lovers long after the affairs ended."
"I feel that Maria's breaking of a 10 year friendly tie between herself and Terry was the cause of the series of coincidences that ultimately led her to Carl Jung," says Stella, "and this fits in very nicely with my past life Lingering Bond Syndrome."
"The issue between Jung and one of his lovers," says Stella, "must have had something to do with that woman being unable to break away from him."
"In that most of Jung's lovers were either his students or patients or both," explains Stella, "I could imagine that woman -- possibly Maria in a past-life -- having great difficulty accepting her situation."
"Those were Victorian times and, having been seduced by Jung, her chances of marriage and children had been shot, and she probably remained under his spell forever, either as a patient or a student or both."
"She did not have the strength of character to tell the great man to get lost," explains Stella, "but Maria did. In doing so, Maria not only freed herself but also the spirit of Jung's lady lover."
"I believe that remaining attached to a male person -- especially an ex husband or boyfriend," explains Stella, "is very common with single women and could have a lot to do with their choice of single life as a permanent lifestyle."
"In Maria’s case it was definitely a pathological past life bond that she shared with Terry," explains Stella, "and that’s not only why she needed to break it but also why she had such extraordinary coincidences to help her."
"In my case," laughs Stella, "I think the past life bond I have with my brother is a very positive one."
"However, if a whole string of coincidences happen that lead me to suspect that he was an axe murderer or something in a past life, then I’ll let you know!"
Stella's story first appeared as lingering bonds and past lives
Labels: attachment, beliefs, cancer, carl jung, coincidences, esoteric, leo, lingering bond syndrome, magical, new age, past lives, pathological, soul brother, soul sister, spiritual bond
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